How negative and positive self-talk can affect your life
Each person has beliefs, which, in fact, determine their values and life motivations. These beliefs, even if they are not expressed, live inside our mind, speechless but not silent. Sometimes there is a battle inside our mind where positive thoughts are fighting with a negative attitude. The outcome of this battle will affect our life.
Often, a negative attitude can grow from things as simple as thoughts to things as complex as failures. And more often than you think, these thoughts can manifest into physical conditions. Depression, heart problems, high blood pressure, a headache – these are just some disorders that can be caused by negative self-talk. A negative attitude would not be so harmful if it only concerned your physical wellbeing. However, it can also be closely linked to your emotional wellbeing and psychological wellbeing, which directly affects personal success at work, among friends, and with your family.
How negative self-talk affects your success
Have you ever noticed the things you think of successful people? Have you ever wondered why success comes so easily to some people and is so difficult to achieve by others? The thing is, success relates to your beliefs and your self-talk. People who achieve success have one thing in common – they practice positive self-talk. Whether they are athletes, managers, business owners or artists, they all know that they WILL be successful BEFORE they even reach the goal. They imagine life the way they want to live, have positive thoughts on life and feel the excitement of anticipation and gratitude for things already in their lives.
The mind creates its own reality and shapes your destiny. Think of your self-talks and the way you talk to yourself. Are the talks you have with yourself negative or positive? What issues are you speculating about and how? Who you are today is the result of your decisions yesterday and beliefs, the source of which is your mind. The mind is the instrument inside you that you can use to acknowledge and notice what you are thinking and how you react to the thoughts that are streaming through your consciousness. If you are not satisfied with how your mind works and want to create a positive mindset, you can practice some positive thinking techniques to help you improve your self-talk.
Winning negative self-talks with the help of a positive mindset
With the help of logical analysis, you can understand your own patterns and tendencies and try to get rid of the negative attitude in your self-talk. Here are 5 easy steps you can follow to improve your mental health:
Collect positive quotes
Positive quotes are inspiring especially if they were said by successful people. You can do many things to keep them around like write them down and stick them to your fridge or keep them in your cell phone as an everyday reminder. The way you keep positive phrases does not matter, the way they affect your positive thinking is crucial. Here are some examples:
“We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the world.” ― Gautama Buddha
“If you hear a voice within you say ‘you can not paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.” ― Vincent Van Gough
Kill your inner critic
A little constructive self-criticism is good because it encourages us to grow and become better. But too strong or non-constructive self-criticism can grow into harmful negative self-talk. People often become the most violent critics of themselves. Treat your inner self-talk as if it is a real person talking to you and follow the rules given by the Indian spiritual leader Shirdi Sai Baba:
– Is it kind?
– Is it true?
– Is it necessary?
– Does it improve upon the silence?
If the answer is ‘Yes’, keep on thinking that way. If it is ‘No’ then get rid of those thoughts. Practicing such inner dialogues will help to shift a negative attitude in your mind into a positive one and control your self-talk.
Change “Can’t” to “How”
Add the question “how?” to your self-talk. A negative attitude in your internal dialogue can bind you, not allowing you to develop and learn something new. If you are used to thinking “I cannot do this” or “I cannot achieve success in this”, try to modify these phrases by adding a question word “how?”. Let them sound like this: “How do I do this?” or “How can I achieve success in this?”
Rewards for achievements help to have a positive mindset. You can start with your achievements from the past. Make it your tradition to have prizes for achieving certain goals. We recommend that you use visual support with this idea. Create a table called “Reward for Achievements”, then write down five of your important achievements from the past. Write a couple of words about what exactly helped you to succeed. In the next column, write at least three of your feelings you got from these victories. Whenever you lack the determination or positive thinking to motivate you to achieve a goal, look at or revise this table to inspire you.
Be persistent in your positive thinking
Your self-talk has been going on for decades, and it is constant. If you are used to constant negative self-talks, it will be challenging to get accustomed to a new habit of thinking positive. This is a process that will require some effort. Keep on reminding yourself about the need to control your self-talk. Analyze any attempt to dialogue in a negative way. Stop any attempt to knock you out just like Abria Joseph, an inspiring international speaker, does. Abria is an example of mindful living and positive thinking; he believes that once you succeed in this, it will be easier to maintain positive thoughts on life. By practicing positive self-talk on a regular basis, one day you will reach a point when your inner positive conversation will become natural. This is what he shares with people worldwide.
People depend on their habits. We can easily get into patterns of behavior created by our destructive negative attitude. Instead of continuously allowing your mind to be negative and following the patterns of the past, practice being your best support team by learning positive thinking techniques. Let it be your habit. Be respectful towards yourself! Do not say anything negative in your self-talk; instead think positive!